In a perfect world, there'd be this great monologue you could speak to her, like in a movie, at the end of which the veil would be lifted from her eyes and she would see her way clear to moving forward with purpose and determination in the way you envision she could. In reality, who she is (and who we all are) isn't likely to make a major shift and you'll need to decide how much of yourself is available to her. It's better to give a smaller part of yourself - that's able to just be with her where SHE is and where she's determining the course of things, even if that course merely stagnates - than to offer an amount of yourself that's not able to deal with the lack of progress, etc. and end up in a fight or saying things you can't take back.
Thursday, December 27, 2007
This quote is from a friend in response to an email I sent her in which I vented my frustrations with trying to lend support to a hurting friend.